Aloneness
“If there is anything that can be crueler than death, it’s nurturing false
hope in your heart just to see them crushing every piece of you at the end.”
You must have watched those YouTube videos or maybe read books that
encourage you to romanticize your life, haven’t you?
Well, I have. And to be honest, only by watching those videos, do I fall
back into my imaginary world where I am the QUEEN of the world (at least
of my world). Just after imagining how it would feel to romanticize my life,
I used to feel a different kind of adrenaline rush running through my veins,
something that I cannot explain in words.
You might be thinking, Renuka, if you love the concept of
romanticizing life then why are you stopping me to believe in it?
Well, after experimenting, learning, watching, and reading about
romanticizing life, I came up with this one explanation which is: Everyone
is already romanticizing their life. They just don’t know the nature of
their character yet.
Confusing?
Let me tell you how you are already walking down on this concept and
why this can be the most dangerous thing for your future.
But let’s first understand what romanticizing life means, shall we?
Romanticizing your life means becoming the main character of your life
as if your entire day is being recorded. In short, you act like you are in a
movie playing the role of the main character.
But here is the thing!
Consciously or unconsciously, we all act as the movie character
behaves.
In any typical movie, the story starts with a girl and a boy. Either the
girl is broken and finds herself in a dark tunnel with depression, stress, and
anxiety (not to mention a poor girl is seen more often) or the same situation
is played by the boy. Then?
Then the boy comes into her life as the HERO who saves her from this
cruel world, gives her hope, teaches her how to love, and finally falls in
love with her. And after that, both of them face this world TOGETHER
like God was conspiring from heaven for their paths to collide.
Sounds familiar?
If not the girl, then the boy is broken and then the girl comes as the
Goddess to play the exact same role that we have just read. And if there is
no love story then there is a friendship story that revolves around the same
thing. A broken, depressed, and pathless person meets with another person
and they become best friends for life.
Most of the movies/web series/books revolve around the same plot
where one is broken and the other one comes as the guiding Angel which I
like to call good drama.
Now, the problem is that people like you and me have been
watching/listening/reading about these kinds of life incidents since
childhood that subconsciously we have made a belief- one day someone
will come to save you, rescue you, or rather fall in love with you.
All my college life, I was waiting for a friendship like Joey and
Chandler (from F.R.I.E.N.D.S) but nothing like that ever happened. I never
had a best friend either in school or in college but I always wanted one. A
kind of best friend we see in web series and movies. Perhaps, that is the
reason that even after having a bunch of friends around me, I used to feel
incomplete.
Though if I look back in time and see the world from a fresh perspective
(or mature perspective), I can see a little girl wishing to have the same
teddy bear she saw in some random movie.
So, what’s wrong with this anyway?
Well, your imagination shapes your reality and here you are. Sitting
there, thinking how broke you can be and then how a perfect angel-like
person will come to save you. The problem with this is that you CHOOSE
to believe that YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH to change your life all by
yourself. You rely your hope on someone who doesn’t exist. And that’s
why, when things don’t fall as per your imagination, you start feeling even
more lonely as if you had something but you lost it.
If you have created an imaginary friend in your mind who you think
will turn into reality, I would say, don’t betray yourself. No one is coming
to save you or make you laugh or travel with you around the world as it
happens in the movie. Life is not a movie. Move on from your own hopes
or get ready to see them crushed.
Believing that someday you will meet perfect friends who will become
a part of your soul is more like creating a graveyard of your hopes. The
more you focus on meeting new friends, the more it will hurt. You will feel
even more lonely thinking that you could have something but you didn’t.
You will have to mourn the loss of someone you never had in the first place.
I am not saying that you wouldn’t meet new people or you wouldn’t be
able to make new friends at all. I made some good friends after college
through Instagram. But one harsh truth about that is - after a certain age,
you don’t make SOUL friends. You just meet people, help each other when
needed and be nice to each other so that you have good people in your
network. As a content creator, I come across a lot of people but I know in
the end that they and I are in touch with each other for the sake of
networking. After college, you don’t make friends. You just network. You
just try to be nice to people so you are not left behind (mostly).
But if you start imagining every person who is nice to you as your
future buddy then you are practically digging a graveyard of your hopes.
And let me tell you one thing from experience, If there is anything that can
be crueler than death, it’s nurturing false hope in your heart just to see them
crushing every piece of you at the end.
Instead of imagining yourself as the character who needs someone in
the first place, imagine yourself as the main character of the movie that is
your life. A movie like your life hasn’t been made yet, and a book like your
life hasn’t been written yet. And that’s why you have the creative freedom
in your hands to write it as you want, make it as bold and wild as you want,
keep it as long as you can, and above all make it about yourself rather than
following an old pattern that doesn’t empower you. You don’t want to play
the role of victim in your own life. You don’t want to see yourself crying
for someone you never had. You don’t want to victimize your character. Or
DO YOU?
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