It gets better with time. Trust me, the guilt you feel is only emotional stress. Rationally thinking, you couldn't have possibly done anything in this situation, but emotionally, you feel that atleast you could have been there for him. I speak from experience. The next part is just me, proving my experience is legit. Feel free to skip it My younger brother (first cousin) died very unexpectedly last July. And when I say unexpectedly, I mean it in every possible way. Just 4 hours ago, we were talking normally and joking around, and suddenly, overnight, his lungs collapsed within minutes. He was in hospital and had doctors and every possible equipment at hand. However, they still couldn't figure out what is happening, and within a matter of minutes, we lost him. The night before his death, he mentioned that his back hurts, and I joked, saying that once you get back home tomorrow, I will give you a massage then. After his death, I felt soo guilty, and my mind was full of what ifs. What if that was the first sign, and I ignored it? What if I hadn't gone home and looked after him more? Rationally, my brain knew there was nothing I could do, but emotionally, I was guilt ridden.
2024-12-15
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It's not your fault, author. Take care of yourself. Your health comes first. Cause the more you think, the more this things will make you depressed. So, try to open up with the one, whom you're close with or you trust the most. But remember this, when you're in your most vulnerable situation, people will try take advantage of you. Don't let them. And also I know it's hard but try to do the things that makes you happy and divert your attention from those things. 😊😊
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Kanak Kale
It gets better with time. Trust me, the guilt you feel is only emotional stress. Rationally thinking, you couldn't have possibly done anything in this situation, but emotionally, you feel that atleast you could have been there for him. I speak from experience. The next part is just me, proving my experience is legit. Feel free to skip it
My younger brother (first cousin) died very unexpectedly last July. And when I say unexpectedly, I mean it in every possible way. Just 4 hours ago, we were talking normally and joking around, and suddenly, overnight, his lungs collapsed within minutes. He was in hospital and had doctors and every possible equipment at hand. However, they still couldn't figure out what is happening, and within a matter of minutes, we lost him.
The night before his death, he mentioned that his back hurts, and I joked, saying that once you get back home tomorrow, I will give you a massage then. After his death, I felt soo guilty, and my mind was full of what ifs. What if that was the first sign, and I ignored it? What if I hadn't gone home and looked after him more? Rationally, my brain knew there was nothing I could do, but emotionally, I was guilt ridden.
2024-12-15
2
ŠïOń
It's not your fault, author. Take care of yourself. Your health comes first. Cause the more you think, the more this things will make you depressed. So, try to open up with the one, whom you're close with or you trust the most. But remember this, when you're in your most vulnerable situation, people will try take advantage of you. Don't let them. And also I know it's hard but try to do the things that makes you happy and divert your attention from those things. 😊😊
2024-12-15
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