It's pretty Ironic how the same men that are supposed to protect us are the same ones we need to be protected from.

70% of these men hide under the guise of past trauma for the most part as the reason to their now violent tendencies but that's just a whole truck load of baloney!. In absolutely no circumstance whatsoever is a man permitted to hit a lady.

Moreover it's tough for most women in these abusive relationships cause they do find it difficult to leave these violent men, some, presumably for the sake of their kids, not wanting them to grow up in a broken family which at times seems fair enough but no!, absolutely not. You know what? I consider Women who've endured these to be brave and Strong and I admire you for that but I feel the importance of your safety here can not be overemphasise. What if he gets way violent some day and he ends up taking your life away huh?, think about what'll then happen to those kids you so cherish and protect, What then was ever the use of you staying and enduring for the sake of your kids when you wouldn't even be there anymore to take care of them and to watch them grow because you're now gone?

And sometimes even the perception of the kids are altered, The males could See that as being "normal", as "okay" and would have a serious tendency to do quite the same to their partners when they are older. And the females Would continue to endure, Seeing that as simply what they deserve and it being okay to be abused by a man if you're wrong or he feels you did wrong which if you ask me is they being eventually "brainwashed" due to these traumatic experiences and that's quite frankly, just Plain wrong.

As for those who do advice women to stay in such abusive relationships, telling them to be patient enough and to keep enduring. You all are one of the main problems of this world and present society we live in. For one, you're not the one going through what she is. You don't have the slightest idea what it's like to live in such a situation. You just assume that since things are fine with you, hers could/would eventually be too, no one two persons are the same you've got to always have that at the back of your mind. Violent/abusive men barely ever change. They could only pretend, but how far can they possibly keep going though?

And as for the ladies with abusive boyfriends. I'm telling you, if that boy really loved you he wouldn't hurt you so much. And when you're asked to leave you'd say something about being in love. Love is a beautiful thing, it doesn't promote violence.

So don't use that as an Excuse for you staying. I could say you were lucky to get to see this side before you became something more permanent. They're are other nice boys out there.

Take a bold step

Don't let the cycle of violence and hurt continue.

End that cycle, you're a woman, you've got a story to tell and a life to live, you're strong, courageous, brave, you name it, and inspite of what you've been through always remember that with time comes change, change for the better if you're indeed willing to embrace it but if and only if you take the most drastic of actions here, act now!

_TheRandomWriter🥀& Anonymous_